Cultivating Inner Space: Choosing How You Respond To Triggers

“Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.” –Victor Frankl

I hold immense admiration for Victor Frankl. Not only did he endure the horrors of the Holocaust, but he also emerged as a beacon of guidance, assisting others in discovering purpose and goodness amidst adversity as a psychiatrist. His journey offers profound lessons on humanity and personal growth, even when faced with challenging situations. The wisdom encapsulated in his words resonates deeply, offering invaluable insights into our capacity to shape our responses to life's trials.

Frankl suggests that our reactions often stem from instinct rather than conscious choice. However, he highlights a pivotal concept—that before reacting, there exists a critical "space" in which we can pause and deliberate. By cultivating awareness of this space, we gain liberation from external pressures and internal impulses, paving the way for inner fulfilment and happiness.

Reflecting on the consequences of our reactions is the first step towards transformation. By acknowledging the negative outcomes, we ignite a desire to pivot towards more favourable responses. For instance, recognizing how impatience hinders problem-solving can motivate us to seek calmer, more effective approaches.

Visualizing improved responses amplifies our capacity for change. Envisioning ourselves calmly navigating challenges and experiencing the positive ripple effects reinforces our commitment to personal growth.

cultivating self-compassion just as we would nurture a friend or child learning a new skill, fosters resilience in our journey towards self-improvement.

Acquiring specific skills may be necessary for certain changes. Whether it's assertiveness, anger management, social skills, or relaxation techniques, counselling offers tailored support to address diverse needs. Embracing the practice of creating 'space' becomes a cornerstone in our pursuit of becoming our best selves.

Let me guide you in discovering this transformative space. Book your complimentary consultation today and embark on a journey towards well-being.